Spencer Linsner—As my supervisor will tell you (sorry, Valerie), I should have made a new post a long time ago. But finals and the holidays, combined with my uncanny ability to procrastinate, have rendered me totally lazy during break. But as I thought about the new year and resolutions, I decided that I ought to resolve to post more this year, and I aim to do just that. (Cross your fingers that it doesn’t end up like most resolutions.)
For this first post of the new year, I’d like to talk about what I was most thankful for during my first semester of college. Not my grades, which did turn out better than I would have guessed, but something even more important. My friends.
Coming to Brockport, I knew a few people, but they were mostly upperclassmen and I didn’t really see any of them on a regular basis. After hanging out in the lounge on the second floor of my dorm, Thompson Hall, I met this guy named Rob. We started talking after I overheard him say that he was an Eagle Scout, like me, and our conversations continued from there. Shortly after, he introduced me to his other friends, like Dane, Jess, and Julia. And after one particular conversation that had all of us laughing, Rob declared, “Spence, I think it’s safe to say you’re officially a part of the group.”
I remember I laughed it off at the time, but in hindsight, I could not have been more glad that I found these guys. As cheesy as it sounds, I didn’t have any friends going into college, and I was unsure about whether I’d find any. But I didn’t have to worry, because I happened upon an absolutely awesome group of people. From an awesome day trip to Syracuse (“The DOOOOOME!”) to our Christmas party at the end of the semester, my group of friends have been both a ton of fun and a source of support. I give them a huge amount of credit for making my semester as excellent as it was.
And as I think about my own experience with finding friends, I thought I’d offer some tips to incoming Brockport students (although these tips could apply to all students looking to make friends):
- Get out of your dorm room! All dorms at Brockport have common areas, and there’s always events going on around campus. Both are great ways to meet new people.
- Keep an open mind! If you’re gonna make new friends, you’ve gotta be willing to talk to new people.
- Be yourself! While having no friends might suck, having friends that you can’t be yourself around is even worse.
Finally, I want to send a shout out to Julia, Rob, Jess, Dane, Ari, John, Danielle, Bronte, Eldon, Kelly and Nicky. You guys are the best, and I dedicate this post to all of you. Can’t wait to see you all again next semester!