This past weekend was not like how most of my weekends have been here at Brockport.
Friday night was spent hanging out with friends and playing games…typical teenage stuff. But Saturday morning we were emailed with a message saying that a freshman girl had died under suspicious circumstances…not your typical teenage stuff.
Over the course of the next 24 hours we were updated and told that the freshman had been murdered by her boyfriend – beaten to death. All I remember thinking was how could this have happened? To someone so young, who hadn’t even had a chance to begin her life. It was unbelievably heartbreaking.
Thankfully the police force worked fast and efficiently to take the suspect into custody, which definitely put an ease to a lot of people’s worries. What also helped was knowing that the suspect was not a student at the College at Brockport but rather, a guest. Now that we knew what had happened and that everything was pretty much taken care of, it was time to mourn the loss of a classmate.
Monday night they held a candle-light vigil for the memory of Alexandra Kogut. When I arrived at the ballroom the place was already full. It wasn’t until after the service I learned that 2,000+ students attended, while another 1,000+ students had to wait outside. I couldn’t believe the turnout, so many people, many of whom did not know Alex, came to pay their respects. I cannot express how heartwarming it is to be a part of a campus that comes together like it has these past few days. And even though I never had the chance to meet Alex, she still taught me a great deal about life.
We often take for granted the people surrounding us, or the chances that we have, and this past weekend was a wake up call. Because of Alex, I have a new appreciation for life, and what I want to do with it. I just wish that Alex had that chance too. But I know that she is looking over us here at Brockport, as our angel!
Before I end this blog, I wanted to talk about domestic violence since it is a topic that is currently out there. If someone has multiple bruises on their body, SPEAK UP! Ask him/her about it, and if they shrug it off but you have a bad feeling about it, TELL SOMEONE. Your RA, RD, or a professor would certainly know what to do! All it takes is ONE PERSON to say something, and you could SAVE A LIFE. Most times the victim will blame themselves, but that’s because they have been tricked into thinking that every time they get hit it’s because they deserved it. If you or someone you know is being abused and in trouble, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at, 1-800-799-7233